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Friday, August 10, 2012

REGARDLESS

Romans 12:17-19a (NIV 1984)  "Do not repay anyone evil for evil.  Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.  If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.  Do not take revenge my friends, but leave room for God's wrath."

Voices raised, frustrations escalated and irritations, evident.

Last week, while in the kitchen, I overheard commotion between two of our children.  Back and forth they went until one loudly blurted, "I'm trying to do what God taught me in my devotion this morning, but you're making it really difficult!"  He emphatically continued, "God told me not to return evil for evil but you make it impossible!"

I quietly chuckled and just had to smirk at his unashamed  and upfront honesty.  

Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.  Boy, oh boy.  How often do I try to blame others for my actions, that are of course, completely justified?
  • If it wasn't for the check out lady playing Jenga with my groceries, I could be more patient.
  • If it wasn't for the man trying to secure a home loan in the bank drive-thru, I could be more tolerant.
  • If it wasn't for the stores unreasonable return policy, I could be more understanding.
  • If it wasn't for my disobedient children, I could be a gracious and loving mother.
  • If it wasn't for her lack of open-mindedness, I wouldn't feel like judging her.
  • If it wasn't for their sharp tongue, I wouldn't have to retaliate.
  • If it wasn't for his insensitivity, I wouldn't be so angry.
  • If it wasn't for their self-centeredness, I wouldn't have to pretend to love them.
Honestly, I hate the ugliness that wells up inside me when I face frustrating scenarios.  I want to respond honorably, but in my haste, sometimes I hesitate to have reputable reactions.  Time and again, the Lord reproves me of my responsibility in the matter.  
God also reminds me of these important truths which are applicable for us all:
  • We cannot change people . . . regardless.
  • We cannot force people to respond fairly . . .regardless.
  • We cannot blame others for our back-lash . . .regardless.
  • We are responsible for our reactions . . . regardless.
  • Our reactions impact our relationships . . . regardless.
  • We must choose to reciprocate in righteousness . . . regardless.
In Romans 12 Paul exhorts his audience with several biblical instructions.  Verse 17 and following pinpoints godly reactions.  "Do not repay evil for evil.  Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.  If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.  Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

Human nature wants to get revenge.  When we are hurt or mistreated we often feel the need to teach a lesson, recover the damage or prove our rightness.  Paul insists we are not to repay evil with an evil response.  Rather, we are to conquer evil with uprightness.

Living at peace with others carries weighty responsibility for the believer.   As much as we can, we are to be agreeable and peaceable with others, even when they wrong us. This means we resist the urge to seek vengeance.  This doesn't mean we ignore the offense.  But, it does mean we refuse to be offensive.    

Resolution is possible when our reactions are communicated with respect, diplomacy and love.

When we respond righteously and the other party doesn't, we can be at peace because we have chosen to react correctly.  We no longer carry the burden and the shame is on their shoulders.  

The reality is, there will ALWAYS be people who annoy us, schedules that bother us and circumstances that create chaos.  Each time we encounter them we have a decision:  a righteous response or an unrighteous reaction . . . regardless.


Heart Work:
Consider the ways you try to justify your actions/reactions.  

Seek the Lord for His supernatural strength to be upright in your reactions . . . especially with the most difficult circumstances.

Choose a verse from below to memorize and meditate on this week.  When tensions rise repeat this Scripture over and over until its truth rearranges your heart.

Heart Exam:
What specific situation(s) really push your buttons?  Can you identify the root in this matter?

Are you prepared to accept your share of the responsibility?

What would a righteous response look like?

Heart Changing Word:
Proverbs 10:19  (NIV 1984)  "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise."

Proverbs 12:18 "Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing."

Proverbs 15:1  "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

Proverbs 21:23  "He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity."

Romans 12:21  "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

Ephesians 4:29 & 31  "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice."

James 3:9  "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness.  Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing.  My brothers, this should not be."


Copyright 2012 by Hester Christensen.  All rights reserved.

14 comments:

  1. Thanks Hester, this was great to read this morning! I would love to share this with our readers (GraceFullHome), with a link back to your site of course (maybe under Guest Blogger?). Let me know what you think about that. (familyhayes5@msn.com)

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    1. Amy,

      Thank you for your comment this morning. Please feel free to share with others as you suggested - that would be great. (I can email you separately to ensure you get this.)

      God bless you as you serve our King,
      Blessings, Hester :)

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  2. A timely post, Hester. This is the second time I've read Proverbs 10:19 in recent days. Hmm...I think I'll choose that one to memorize. :)

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    1. Cathy,

      Thank you for your comment this morning. I appreciate your feedback. Prov. 10:19 is so good indeed - that one gets me too!

      Blessings to you sister,
      Love, Hester ;)

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  3. Definitely sharing this one, my friend. Not only did I need to read this today, but I need it everyday. Love you Hester and thank you for your incredible words of wisdom.

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    1. Heather,

      Thank you for your comment and for being a constant source of encouragement to me. It ministers to me greatly; thank you for taking the time to share. God bless you sister as you continue to serve our King!

      Love to you, Hester ;)

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  4. Such wisdom dear sister! Personal responsibility is huge! God's love... well, that is the HUGEST! Thanks girl! ~ Blessings out, Amy :)

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    1. Thank you Amy for your comment. Amen to God's love!

      Bless you too sister, Hester ;)

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  5. Love it, Hester. One of my favorite psalms (don't know ref) -
    Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord. Keep watch over the door of my lips...
    If I've breathed it once, I've done it a thousand times ;)

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    1. Thank you Susan for your comment. Yes, that is a great Psalm (I need to include it too.) It is Psalm 141:3

      Love to you, Hester :)

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  6. Excellent post Hester! Just when I think I'm going to get through the unrighteous list saying "not me", WHAM, there they are! So Thorough! Thank you for the next list of regardless and heart-changing HOPE. Love you

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    1. Lisa,

      Thank you for your comment today. I appreciate your feedback and encouragement very much.

      Indeed, we have hope in HIM!

      Blessings to you, Hester ;)

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  7. Hester,
    What great words of wisdom you share! For many years, I was caught in the blame cycle of life. I am sad to say, at one time, it blame almost destroyed my marriage. Thankful for the mercies of Lord and His continual teaching. Bless you for sharing this important message.
    PS. I have had a delightful (and heart teaching) time with a cup of tea and your precious words tonight--a great big South Dakota hug and thanks your way!!

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    1. Kim,

      I really appreciate you sharing so personally tonight; thank you for your comment. I think it helps the rest of us to hear others testimonies of God goodness and faithfulness in our lives.

      I am imagining you with your cup of tea and it warmed my heart.
      Here's a great big Washington hug back to you!

      Keep shining for our King Kim!
      Lovingly, Hester ;)

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